今日推荐英文原文：《Why You Should Embrace Your Childhood Self》
今日推荐英文原文：《Why You Should Embrace Your Childhood Self》作者：Jon Upshaw
推荐理由：什么时候才能像高年级的同学 / 有张成熟与长大的脸
Why You Should Embrace Your Childhood Self
The unspoken key to fearless creativity and joy
(Photo by Sharon McCutcheon from Pexels)There is truth to the idea that childlike curiosity is the key to opening one’s mind to learning anything new.
It’s also a well-known fact that much of our formative personality traits, as well as our most impactful memories stem from our childhood. Yet we almost never think about looking to our younger self for guidance when dealing with the complex realities of the constantly changing adult world.
This year, we have seen the COVID-19 pandemic affect every area of our lives, forcibly thrusting us into both the physical enclosures of our homes and the internal prisons of our minds.
Like a muscle with consistent training, we grow and are shaped by pain and hardship.Often, when faced with the realities of our past, we may feel trapped — perhaps there is something we regret doing, or we may be reminded of a past incident that created trauma that causes problems with our present relationships.
For those of us who weren’t fortunate enough to have a stable childhood, memories of bullying, domestic violence and broken families often take the place of adventure and fulfillment when we are alone with our thoughts.
However, there is something unique about those of us who go through abnormal levels of emotional trauma in our lives. Like a muscle with consistent training, we grow and are shaped by pain and hardship.
My Childhood Wasn’t EasyI remember when I was a kid.
I grew up in poverty, which often meant that I wasn’t afforded many of the luxuries others children my age had, like the newest video game console or the coveted action figure once advertised on TV.
Many times, my siblings and I weren’t sure where our next meal was going to come from. Homelessness was a common occurrence for us, and we’d often resort to living with other people to get by.
What I had was something unique that made life worthwhile, even through the struggles my family and I experienced. It was a sense of imagination.
With my imagination, an ordinary composition notebook was instead a canvas upon which I would illustrate countless fictional stories involving legendary heroes that would span across multiple universes.
As time went on, I would fill numerous notebooks with these stories. As I got older, I forgot that much of this storytelling ability could be transferred to my personal and professional life. I spent so much time growing up that I simply forgot to be a kid again.
Rediscovering Your Childhood Joy
(Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels)If your story sounds a lot like mine, you’re not alone. As adults, it’s easy for us to forget the sense of non-judgmental creativity that once determined our view of the world. This creative energy, through seemingly infinite when we are children, seems to dissipate quickly with age due to our tendency to judge ourselves more against the standards of our social groups.
Embracing your inner child means going against your natural tendency to do this — and with enough practice, it can be an undertaking that will bring you lifelong fulfillment. You just have to befriend your younger, immature (and blindly courageous) self.
How do you achieve this? Simple: think about all of the things that interested you as a child, and figure out what the adult version of that is in your mind. Figure out how to harness your inner child by understanding what your younger self craved the most.
Was your childhood wrought with unpredictable circumstances? Then perhaps it is stability and solitude that your inner child needs to feel comfortable so you can create.
Was childhood bullying or exclusion something that left scars on your emotional psyche? Then reflecting upon positive moments and achievements in your current life by writing them down so that your inner child feels the warmth and acceptance it desperately needs to feel alive again.
You‘re Admirable, You Just Don’t Realize It YetWho did you admire as a child?
Often as children, we held high the image of our fearless heroes, daring figures of courage that never found themselves afraid of the unknown. However, we often forget that as adults (and parents if that applies to you), we have to be our own heroes, as well as heroes for our loved ones — and often we are very good at it.
It’s time to start admiring yourself and what you’re capable of. If you’re reading this article, for example, you’re already taking the time out of your day to improve yourself and set yourself on the right path. Plus, you can read. And you’re doing it willingly. (That’s something a lot of people couldn’t say they were fully capable of 150 years ago.)
The best part is, just like me, you’re also capable of creating something other people can enjoy.
When you fully align yourself with your purpose and learn to accept your past, it can be a helpful guide to understanding the nature of your inner creativity. It’s why we grow stronger when we learn from our pasts.
For me, learning to accept my past meant understanding the issues I developed as a result of experiencing it.
You can do the same. All it takes is patience, self-compassion, and the willingness to accept (and admire) the creativity of your past self.